Ok, feel that it is time to do an update.
For installing the high-beam assistant (a bit sloppy i have called it headlight assistant in some of my posts), you need the following.
rearview mirror (8K0 857 511, there is also a letter after this. From what I know there are 8K0 857 511A, 8K0 857 511C and 8K0 857 511E.
The letter stands for what software the high beam assistant has.
Apparently some people have been complaining about the assistsant not working very well, hence I would recommend the "C" and "E" versions.
Also you would need to replace your can gateway. Now finding the right one is a bit tricky, as the can gateway coverns some other functions in your car as well. Also, there is a difference between cars that have MOST (fibre optical cables, recognized by having a 2G or 3G nav system in your car), or CAN based (regognized by not having navigation in your car).
I have cruise control, rain and light sensors an a coupé, hence I have a can gateway called 8T0 907 468 H (has later been replaced by "M") in my car. This one I need to replace with 8T0 907 468 J or N version (J was the earlier version and "N" the later one). To find which one is good for your car, look in ELSA or ETKA (if you have it) and look for the PR-code called 8N7 (which is "audi code" for high-beam assist)
When you replace the can gateway (and eventually start your car, the car will go into component protection mode. This is a feature Audi has implemented to prevent theft and selling of stolen parts. Basically it means that you wont have any interior lighting, the AC wont work (at least i think so), and the instrument lights will go dim. In the DIS you will have "SAFE" written.
The car is drivable, but you should take it to the dealer to remove the component protection (adaptation/SVM coding to your car). You can switch the gateway back to the original one and get a fully functional car again, but the error codes will still remain in the memory the ECU.
Also, you will need VCDS coding of the car/enabling the high-beam assistant.
You would also need to connect some cables, but I am sure somebody here on the forum can help with the elcetrical schematics.
Any questions? give me a yell (PM), or post in this thread.
Mattias